Some People Have Accused Me Of Being Insensitive, Even Callous. How Would I Know? Do I Have To Believe Them?

1. ? Says

   If the dead guy in question would have appreciated the joke, then it’s probably cool.
   Anyway, I just popped in to say that you have the absolute best R&S name I’ve ever seen!

2. Quit Distracting Me I’m Trying t… Says

   Having lost someone close recently, I don’t think you did anything wrong. It helped to laugh a little after all the tears. If you apologized sincerely, then leave it to them. If they bring it up, apologize again and tell them it was an honest mistake.

3. mormon girl Says

   We all need to understand that the choice of our words affect people in different ways. Two slams here. WOW. One at the Funeral and another a few days later.

4. TrustThe Says

   You obviously have not felt the pain of loss. Your life is not seen beyond your own nose. I think you should listen to them and make time for some introspection.

5. Anonymous Says

   do not worry about it, they are being self centered. They are no perfect for you either.

6. zig Says

   Unless the person heard it from heaven or hell it doesnt effect them. Ask them why they care if the deceased doesn’t?

7. Robert Says

   Tell them that you learned from making the mistake about saying something in front of certain people who don’t understand what you meant. Tell them the reason that you felt comfortable saying what you said was because the deceased would have known exactly what you were saying. And also tell that critical person who has been giving you grief about it that the funeral was over three days ago. This is not a healthy way to morn a loved one. In fact, this way will not allow him to get over either upsets. Thinking of one will always bring back the tragedy of the other instead of moving on in life.

8. guitarrm Says

   You’ve done the typical ..Open Mouth, Insert Foot.
   You apologized right? Then all you can do is wait for your friend to call you. How close are you and the friend? Can you go to the house and talk to him?
   Funerals are kinda funny. You meet some folks that will talk about the person, laugh, talk, make jokes. Then you have the funerals that make you so depressed that you wish you were with the deceased. If you open your mouth without tears, sadness, depression…your not honoring the dead……People are funny creatures.

9. bindysdo Says

   Someone died, now they are gone forever. They will never again see their family, friends nor the light of day. That is some really dark humor you got there. I bet the deceased would have been hurt by such a comment. A person may mask it, but they are hurt by those things.
   “I’m sorry you feel that way”? What? I thought this person was a close friend, you should feel terrible for even thinking such a thing.
   You basically said, “You are worthless and nobody needs you” to the deceased. There are close friends and family at the funeral who really care about this person.

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